Your spouse is your other half. The one you have pledged to spend the rest of your life with – for better or for worse. We love our spouse – at least we are supposed to. However, there are times when it can be challenging to do. Especially when we are in the middle of an argument with our better half and they just don’t listen. It has been said that we are given one mouth and two ears because we are supposed to listen more than we talk. But during an argument, its one thing that is difficult to do. Are you having a hard time convincing your spouse of something? Here are three ways to make your spouse listen.

First, agree with your spouse. I know, it may sound contradictory but this is the first step. Why? Because disagreeing with someone will only make them defensive. People are naturally wired this way. The more you disagree with your spouse the more they will want to stick to their own argument. So don’t make this mistake. I’m not saying that you have to agree with everything your husband or wife says. All you have to do is find common ground. Look for something that both of you agree on and start from there.

Second, strive to see their point of view. In Sun Tzu’s the Art of War one way to defeat your opponent is to study them. Learn their strengths and weaknesses. Discover how they look at things. Strive to see their point of view. If you genuinely make an effort to see your spouse’s point of view you will be able understand him or her better. Thus, you will be able to formulate the best way to reason with them.

Third, get your spouse to say “yes”. According to Dale Carnegie the only way to win an argument is to avoid starting it in the first place. It doesn’t matter whether you are right or wrong but trying to prove a point through arguing will only raise the other person’s hackles. So instead of disagreeing get your spouse to say yes. How? You can do this by finding points that both of you agree on. Getting him or her to say yes will get the ball rolling in your direction. When you finally get to your main point you will have an easier time getting your spouse to say “yes” to you.

Is there something that you want your spouse to agree on with you? Do you want to convince your spouse to do something? Getting a person to listen to you, even if it is you husband or wife is not rocket science. Once you know how people tick you will be able to figure out how to make them listen and agree to your way of thinking. Dealing with people is a skill. The more you do it, the better you will become. So again, agree, strive to see their point of view and get them to say “yes”. Try these three steps and watch them work their magic.

About the Author:-
Kevin Preble resides in Phoenix Arizona where he is a student of life and his favorite hobby is learning about wine and the wine industry from the views of wine brokers. He enjoys road trips and traveling throughout the southwest and finding good wine pairings to serve with southwest cuisine. Kevin is interested in helping wine drinkers make educated decisions when they buy wine online.