Is He Your Dream Man?
So you’ve been dating a man for a few months. You have many things in common, you love his company and, as things begin to become more serious, you might wonder if he is actually “the one”. Is this him? Is this the dream man you’ve been waiting for all your life. Now, nobody can tell you if someone is the person you are to share the rest of your life with, but here are the signs that will tell you that he is your dream man.
He respects women: Okay, this is a no-brainer, so it’s best to get it out of the way first. If he’s respectful, well mannered, and polite and opens doors for you and stands aside to let you through first, he’s got class and comes from a good family. If he talks nicely to your mom, and speaks with respect to his mom, chances are he’ll treat you with respect as well. If he orders his mother around, shouts at his sister, swears at his ex, and salivates at every passing skirt, give him his marching orders.
He treats everyone nicely: Let’s face it; all of us are nice to our superiors. But it takes someone special to be nice to a person who is below their station in life and to whom they need not be nice. The guy who considers himself above the taxi driver or doorman may soon act like he’s better than you (or your profession or your family). Plus, you’ll always feel mortified about his bad manners.
Google him: We don’t encourage spying but once you know his name it is kind of hard not to Google him, admit it. Just typing in his name can tell you a few things about him – the school he passed out from, his Facebook friends, and whether he has any harassment or stalking charges against him. Do this early, so there are no surprises later, but use your own judgement and do not believe everything you read on the Internet.
He keeps promises: If he keeps appointments and keeps promises, he’s a keeper. If he remembers what he promised in the heat of the moment, then he’s worth considering. If he goes beyond and above the call of duty to carry out a promise, then book yourself into the nearest mental hospital if you let him go.
He gets along with your friends: If he enjoys your friends’ company, I mean really enjoys their company, with no pretense, then he’s the real deal. There is nothing worse than being with someone who always finds excuses not to hang out with you and your friends. Of course, if he showers too much attention on your hottie friends and ignores your nottie friends, then it’s probably better to let him go. And because your friends know you so well they will gauge him on their own and pass their own judgement, whether you like it or not.
He knows how to dress: Every woman knows that a man who can dress is a man who is looking to impress. If your man knows how to dress without you interfering, you must keep him. There is nothing worse in the world than having to dress your man and yourself for a night out. If he can coordinate his outfit and look great next to you – is that a dream or what?
He loves being with you: Every woman needs a man who actually enjoys her presence. If your man only requests you to sit in the same room with him while he reads or finishes work just because you brighten his day, it is a good sign that he’s a definite keeper. If he simply lights up the moment he sees you or hears your voice, he truly enjoys you as a person and as a mate. This is truly one of the best things you can ever have in a relationship.
He really wants to be with you to share time and experiences with you, even if that means heading to the mall to ponder the sales. He is happy to hear your voice, get an e-mail from you when he’s at work, and his face lights up when he sees you. It’s great to be wanted and he can’t hide how he feels about you. Lucky you!
He has a solid relationship with his family: Finding a man who has a great relationship with his family is priceless. A man who has a great relationship with his family is a man who has great family values. His relationship with his family can clue you into what family life would be like with him in the future.
Ever heard the saying that if you see how a man treats his mother you will know how he will treat you? Well, it’s true. A man who has a sound relationship with his family and friends reveals he has good family values and the potential to be an excellent husband and father. And while every family has ups and downs, seeing your man stand tall and be supportive of his family is a good sign he’s one to hang on to, because he will do the same for you.
He is not a show-off: He doesn’t mention that his watch is a Rolex. Or that he made a killing in the real-estate market. Or how much his Mercedes set him back. Guys who talk about how much things cost, especially to a virtual stranger, are basically insecure. They use money as a hook to catch women. But you’re not landed that easily, right? Just because a guy spends a lot of money on himself, doesn’t mean he’ll lavish it on his girlfriend. In fact, people who have to tell you the price of everything are often cheap. Guys who price-drop and name-drop are shallow, insecure and definitely not dream men.
He is confident: If you have a confident man, there is no reason you should give him the boot. If your man is confident enough to not get upset if you mention a celebrity is good looking or sexy, he is a good man.
If your man can understand that you can “see and not touch” another man, he is a definite dream. He knows that you say these things because you are honest and he’s confident of your love for him. He’s not afraid to tell you exactly how he feels. A man who is confident in his own skin and who can express who he is and how he feels without worrying about what anyone thinks, is a great catch. He will be emotionally available to you because he trusts you and he loves you. He won’t get upset if you tell him you think Salman Khan is sexy (and you shouldn’t when he says he thinks Sonam Kapoor is sexy!). He knows you love him and is confident about the strength of your relationship. Now, that’s a real dream man!
He is responsible: While every man has a bit of the “boy” in him, he is all man when it really counts. Most good men know how to keep a job, manage finances, and basically stay out of trouble. If your man can do this without your help, you have found a great man. If he’s not the type to blame others, or circumstances for life situations, if he accepts accountability for his actions and is willing to self-examine, take responsibility, grow personally and if you can trust him with your dog for a weekend while you are out of town with your girlfriends, girl, he is a dream not to be woken up from.
He has a life of his own: Although you would love him to be available for each of your fancies it will get boring if all he does is hang about you all the time. Work he’s passionate about, hobbies that keep him engaged, friends and family he cares about make him an interesting, well-rounded person who will be more interesting to hang out with. A dream man with a dream personality – who’s complaining?
He is a good loser: Of course you don’t want a loser, nobody does. That’s not what we mean. But he shouldn’t get all grumpy when he loses a game of carom board, say. C’mon, you want a man with spirit, a man who will fight against all odds. A man who loves winning but doesn’t mind losing sometimes too. This shows he has the character and ability to handle emergencies like paying the massive shopping bills you’re about to surprise him with.
He makes you feel fabulous: Finally, all said and done, he has to make you feel like a million bucks, like a princess even in your saggy sweatpants. If he’s still picking you up at the airport after two years, if he is the one who arranges the dreamy romantic date and if he is the one who always makes up, then this is the dream man you’ve been waiting for all your life.
He is your prince charming, your knight in shining armor. Believe it, because you are the luckiest girl in the world!