Is Sex always on a Woman’s Mind?
Recent statistics reveal that women love sex more than men. In fact, some women think about it just as often, if not more, than their male counterparts. They fantasize constantly and at great length. The women in general longing for sex, say a physiotherapist, would yearn for a perfect balance between the level of difficulty and maximum pleasure.
According to him, the dispute arises in many families due to sexual dissatisfaction between the couples. The housewives may pardon their husbands for any misdeeds, but the men’s inability to satisfy them sexually, cannot be tolerated, he said and added that women want men to dominate them in the beds, but, when it happens to the contrary, they tend to get irritated and show their displeasure throughout their lives.
A section of physicians averred that sexual dissatisfaction is inevitable in the present globalized and computerized era. “The software employment and culture has marred the lives of many couples. The housewives are grieved that their husbands do not find time to satisfy them and some of them invariably end up having sexual relationships either with their car drivers or maids. It is adding fuel to fire if their better-halves are chain-smokers and addicted to alcohol. A former Mr. Universe once said that women flock around to witness their performances, more than men, with a desire to attract macho-looking attractive men flexing their bare bodies. According to him, when the opposite sex attracts people, it is the women, who outnumber men. A section of women, who preferred to speak on condition of anonymity, said that they would like to lie down on the bed and prefer adopting a low profile to enable their husbands to dominate them. Another section of women, however, opined that they would like to be on top of their husbands after quenching their thirst sexually and expect their other halves to crack vulgar jokes at them.
The women in general, however, said that they hated their husbands having a sound sleep immediately after the enjoyment. Ideally, they would prefer the pleasure lasting from dusk to dawn.
Some doctors are of the view that women long for passion and creativity while having sex with their partners. According to them, many men commit the blunder of going for hurried sexual intercourse before retiring to bed and further asserted that a large number of men lose interest after ejaculation, which their female partners hate and it reflects when they show their temper and start harassing their husbands even for trivial issues subsequently. It is imperative on the part of men to stop discussing official matters and other women while having sex with their wives or lovers, as women would shudder to think of other issues, and especially about their sex, when the hot romance between them is in progress.
Another survey on sex says that women are keen on their men talking to them with a sense of humor in un-parliamentary language. What they expect from their partners is that they bring their lips close to their ears and whisper what they intend to do to them, letting them scream their names while attaining their satisfaction. Many women would opt for the kitchen counter and the bathroom where they could take their bath together to attain satisfaction.
This is nothing new, says another psychiatrist. “Women’s sexual urge is three times more than men’s. With the improvement in their financial background and independent standing, girls do not hesitate to change their boys than the other way round,” she avers and goes on to add that some pretty young girls, aware of the sexual desire of some elderly members in some families, tap them with their attractive looks and communication skills.
Moreover, the judiciary’s permission for “live-in relationships” has proved to be a blessing in disguise for a section of womenfolk. One Censor Board member explains that attitudes have changed.
“As a lecturer, I have witnessed youngsters, especially girls, who are open about their relationships,” she said and added that, in films, it may go a little overboard, just to add masala, as sex is not something alien to them.
Last year, a programme was conducted in a local channel on a topic; do women prefer chocolate boys or rugged men? The compere was astonished to find that most of the women, especially college girls, opted for rugged men with macho appeal. Women find them safer and are secured with them when they indulge in sexual relationships. The show also portrayed that an increasing number of young women and college teens are eager to experience different kinds of love by dating an array of manly looking men before marrying a suitable groom, pretending that they are marrying with the permission of their parents. Some girls even confessed in the programme that they would prefer to date men with their shirt buttons remaining open.
Interestingly, Adam-teasing has outnumbered Eve-teasing in the city. Many girls are aware of the fact that the cops will look the other way when they corner a boy, as they are not liable to be punished under any law.
Women are more practical while indulging in sexual relationships before marriage, says a psychiatrist, and they are candid in their preferences. According to him, earlier, it was boys, who used to roam around girls colleges but the situation is taking a different turn with more girls storming into the boys’ colleges to select their lovers. A leading daily advertises every now and then about the opportunity to enjoy life by meeting mature high society females. They also go a step further and assure of dating with an opportunity to earn handsome amounts.
Another government-registered advertisement guarantees that if you are lonely, you need not have to worry about looking for male or female friends, as the organization would take care of your requirements. Another advertisement invites men to have a field day with women of their choice in the form of style friendship night parties with the assurance of sizeable income from their female companions. Many youths, however, murmured that the response is feeble and not clear. A housewife bemoaned, “When my entrepreneurial husband, a workaholic in principle and in practice, got married to his profession, I was suffering from the loss of intimacy and sexual alienation from him. Under the circumstances, I have no alternative but to have an illicit relationship with my servant.”
She is not an exception as many housewives and newly-married women complained that they were unhappy with their better-halves hectic schedules throughout the year and got exhausted when their life partners were craving enjoyable nights. One of them, preferring to speak on condition of anonymity, said that some smart boys are hired by her to satisfy her urge.
The theories on sexual relationships suggest that women do not attach importance to sexual relationships with their boozing men. Likewise, women craving sex hate their men who are prone to work addiction. A marriage counselor, said, for some women, there is no difference between their boyfriend and husband. Some of their e-mails suggest both their names.
An expert doctor in sexual relationships and its trauma recollects how many teenagers approached him for abortions as the pleasure tempted the girls to go for intercourse with their lovers. He further asserted that the girls did not express an iota of regret over their actions and candidly admitted their sexual weaknesses. An increase in the number of co-educational colleges could be one of the reasons, as some boys colleges have been converted into co-educational institutions.
When the tinsel world was castigated for too much of sexual and illicit relationships between the actors and actresses, the noted heroine of yesteryear in Kollywood cinema Lakshmi retaliated and said that illegal sex relationships exist everywhere and cited some clubs handing over keys to all the couples. The key which matches a particular man and a woman will spend the night together.
Passion is the need of the hour, say some psychologists here, but without trust and commitment, it will become a ship without a rudder. A woman doctor aptly summed up when she said that couples should lie on the bed together for a period of a minimum four to five hours every day and communicate with each other patiently and with perseverance to ameliorate their grievances. This, in turn, would enable them to enhance their love and affection before opting for a sexual relationship. Slow and steady surely wins the race in romance and both the life partners should sip their cups of tea, instead of gulping it. After all, the proof of the pudding is in the eating!
A recent survey revealed that many women would rather have sex even if they are overweight, instead of reducing their weight at the cost of sacrificing their sexual pleasure.
Women’s advancement has reached such an extent that when it comes to deriving sexual satisfaction they will leave no stone unturned to attain it.